By: Hephzibah Adesina
We’ve all heard or said the word “abracadabra” at least once or twice in our life, and even though that word has no real meaning, it comes from the Aramaic phrase “Avra Kehdabra,” meaning, “I will create as I speak.” Arameans created the phrase to give power to a wish through speech.
Avra Kehdabra can’t be used to wish me into my favorite house, Slytherin, at Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry, but I can use it to drive positive change in my life and yours. Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.
“I am beautiful, I am powerful, I am smart, and I am successful.”
Science Behind It
Scientists and behavioral care providers have proposed that self-affirmation prompts people to remember the important aspects of themselves, permitting them to see things from a sensible, well-thought-out, and coherent vantage point (Sherman DK et al., 2011). Self-affirmation lessens distrustful responses to intimidating info and situations, leading to beneficial results in many areas such as mental and physical health, education, bias, discrimination, and social disputes (Sherman DK et al., 2006). After a long and extensive study by psychologists, self-affirmation has just begun to gain attention, socially and medically.
Nourishment for the Soul
Proverbs 16:24: “Kind words are like honey-sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”
There are many healthy soul nourishment qualities we get from affirmations. For example, saying affirmations:
Raises your confidence.
Controls negative feelings that may plague your life.
Improves your self-worth.
Helps you finish projects you’ve started.
Improves your efficiency levels.
Helps you get over bad habits.
Make It a Daily Activity
Constant use of affirmations in a meditative state can help modify life—but only if you are prepared and willing to manifest positive change. Psychotherapist Ronald Alexander of the Open Mind Training Institute said that we could speak affirmations five times a day to strengthen a belief (Alexander, 2011).
Though there are no real rules set aside for us when it comes to frequency with affirmations, I think using the 21/90 rule would be useful. The rule is pretty easy to follow. Commit to a goal for 21 days straight. After three weeks, that goal should be a habit. Once you’ve recognized the habit, you continue doing it for another ninety days. If you follow these rules, you should have a new permanent lifestyle change on your hands.
Examples of Affirmations:
I am doing my best
I am amazing.
I am grateful for all that I have.
I am prepared to take advantage of the opportunities before me.
I am rich in health, wealth, love, joy, and happiness.
My ability to conquer my challenge is limitless. My potential to succeed is infinite.
I accept myself unconditionally.
I will live a healthy lifestyle.
I radiate confidence, self-respect, and inner harmony.
I am free from stress and anxiety.
Music is medicine to the soul. If you’re like me, then you probably have a playlist that you take joy in listening to every day. I’ve listed a few songs below which are dedicated to you and your self-care journey. I’m not your therapist, and I refuse to assign homework, but adding songs that make you feel like a baddie to your playlist will not hurt you.
“Feeling Myself” – Nicki Minaj & Beyoncé
“Feelin’ Good” – Nina Simone
“I Can’ – Nas
“Check” – Kash Doll
“I Love Me” – Demi Lovato
“You Should See Me in A Crown” – Billie Eilish
“Party With A Jagaban” – Midas the Jagaban
“Boss” – The Carters
“One” – Tiwa Savage
“Itty Bitty Piggy” – Nicki Minaj
Believe It Can, and It Will
It would help if you believed that what you’re speaking can happen. There are many different energies in this world, and we want only to attract positive ones. So, to make our “Avra Kehdabra” process work, I have to believe what I say with my whole being. “I am someone who pushes limits and gets the most out of life.”
Search for any reservation that hides behind your Avra Kehdabra “I create as I speak” and rephrase it so that you have a hundred percent self-confidence in it. “I am the boss.” “I am blessed beyond measures.” “Today will be another successful day.” Always phrase your affirmations in the present tense. Then accept what you say as true.
“You’re a phenomenal human being!”