Fear and Action Can’t Coexist
By Yadley Turnier
As I reflect on my personal experiences, I find that it’s normal for me to feel confused and helpless when the life I once knew unexpectedly begins to shift. Although, when I feel this way, the most important thing to do is to remain calm because what I always later come to realize is that things shift when new and better things are coming my way. I often find that I face difficulties as a result of adjustments, and sometimes change is inevitable. The reality is, life is never simple, no matter how much we wish it was.
Do not be alarmed if you have recently been through a lot of changes in your life. The more you continue to fight against the fabric of reality, the more miserable and defeated you will become. For example, I tend to avoid the discomfort of change, reflecting on my behavior. The avoidance, procrastination, and inconsistency symptoms become more present, making me lose focus and confidence in myself and my goals. That is why we must be able to understand our feelings and emotions in regards to change and learn how to respond to it in a way that helps us become confident in and prepared for our next move. When your world is “falling apart,” it’s really just falling into place. Did it ever occur to you that perhaps everything is coming together to comply with your real intentions and aspirations?
As I approach the end of my two-year contract at my job, I’m still learning to recognize the events and patterns leading up to change. I claimed a victory when I got this job two years ago, and I overcame the discomfort that I had when I first started. Now that I’ve reached the end of this chapter, I can’t help but feel uneasy and unprepared. As I reflected more, I realized that I felt this way because I knew that I could no longer grow in that comfortable place. Although my last two years of work were indispensable, knowing that I’ve reached my peak is nerve-wracking. Essentially, the anticipation has allowed my fear to paralyze me, which was evident in my behavior. Fear is deceptive. I sometimes find myself disguising it as something else, such as practicality. Instead of doing something I want to do someday, I convince myself that the best thing is to do what is “responsible.” However, I can’t continue to be scared of change and fear. Rather than fight or reject transition, which is a task I’m still working on, I’m attempting to make friends with it by accepting change for precisely what it is. It’s not easy to keep moving forward, but it’s vital if you want to do great things that catapult you to your greater purpose in life.
Although I don’t have everything figured out and still don’t know what is to come, I choose to transform fear of change into positive energy. After that, there are no limits to what I can accomplish.
There are probably many of you out there who are going through changes and new beginnings. If you feel how I felt, the good news is that fear and action can’t coexist.